Thursday, February 7, 2008

Social Circles

Sometimes, when I get to thinkin', I start thinking about how nice it will be to have a new house and have a housewarming party in it.  And it'll be an "Open House," where folks can come and go as they please (as long as they don't let the cat out) and I'll have some food out, so people can nosh, and everyone will say what a great house I have and how happy they are that I finally got one.  (Yes sir.  That's how it will be.)

And I start thinking about the different groups of friends that I have.  And while I know that some of the fun of having parties is bringing together people who don't know each other, there's a part of me that is a teensy bit concerned about bringing all my circles of friends together, because I think I have a pretty diverse group of friends.  Particularly in terms of, um, socio-economic strata.

Which is to say, sometimes I go out with friends who can't afford more than a slice of pizza.  And other times I find myself with a somewhat pricier crowd.  (The latter was on my mind this evening as I attended an event held in somebody's house.  Said house used to be owned by Howard Hughes.  Clearly, dude did pretty well for himself.)

I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I'm a lawyer and a theatre critic.  (So I travel in circles of lawyers and theatre critics.  And lawyers tend to make good money but there's not a ton of cash in theatrical criticism.)  But it gets me wondering whether I'm somewhat unique in having "Coke and Dodger Dog" friends as well as "private box at the stadium" friends -- or if everyone happily travels in multiple circles and we're really doing people a disservice by pigeon-holing them in a single category.  I mean, if I have just as much fun in both settings, shouldn't I assume everyone else would, too?  Or are some people just too snooty to enjoy the cheap seats, and others would feel awkward approaching a place-setting with four different forks?


helmswondermom said...

I think I would call it well-rounded, and it's the way I would my kids would be -- comfortable in either setting and prepared for either setting.

rdautumnsage said...

I tend to have a "very" diverse group of friends; Separated by such tenents as religion (wiccan-christian), culture, race, social standing....If it's an odd fit, it's probably likely I'm friends with them in one form or another.

Having said that I wouldn't hesitate to have them meet one another as each is an extension of the esceletic me. If they can't step outside their boundaries long enough to, at the very least respect my friendship with someone different than they are...I don't need to waste my time. I tend to like my drama free life and don't expect my friendship to be judged according to who I like. I think when someone draws boundaries and refuses to try to understand another human beings point of view or life choice....they are rather sad, shallow, empty shells.

This is of course just my point of view...(winks) (Hugs) Indigo