Monday, December 13, 2004

You don't get women

So, this morning, my morning DJ promises to tell us about the most romantic thing EVER.

Turns out to be this story about a marine who was injured in Iraq, and the doctors were going to cut off his wedding ring, and he tells them to cut off his finger instead.  And here's the DJ telling the story, saying, "OK, ladies, you can tear up now," and how this blows away any other romantic gesture any other guy would make.

And I thought, Look, I understand the guy was under a lot of stress, and he loves his wife, and I certainly wouldn't want to tell him he did the wrong thing now that's he's cut off his finger and all.... BUT that is the stupidest thing I've ever heard.  The only part that makes me want to cry is that this guy was idiotic enough to think his wife would rather have him save a thing rather than a part of himself.  (He's only 19, which explains a lot, I think.)

Look, a wedding rings means A LOT.  It is very likely the most symbolic item a man owns.  But, when you get right down to it, it is just a THING.  It's a lump of metal.  (It isn't like it's a ring that has magical powers or anything.)  It's a hunk of gold that can be easily replaced.  As opposed to your finger, which is, y'know, your finger.  You can't replace that.  It's a part of you.  When you end up making the hard decisions, preserving yourself should always be more important than preserving a mere thing.

Am I wrong here? 

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

I agree with you completely.  And in the article I read on this story, the doctors "misplaced" the ring after they cut the finger off, so he still doesn't have the ring!

Anonymous said...

Sheeshus. There's love ... and then there's lunacy. I'd kick my hubby's butt if he had someone cut off his finger ILO his wedding ring!

Which I never have to worry about anyway, because he doesn't WEAR a wedding ring. (He hates jewelry. Refuses to wear anything. Bugged me at first, but I got over it.)

Anonymous said...

I totally agree with you!